Is it mistakenly assumed that the study abroad, the desire to touch new cultures, is only for the open type? As a typical introvert, can’t you take off the dream of reaching the West?
As a writer and an introvert by nature, I would like to answer these questions.
Don't believe in advertising!
Every day, many ads, good articles from experienced speakers share that studying abroad is a great way to help you expand your network of friends - international students immerse in the environment. dynamic and swirling in the whirlwind of colorful life in the western sky. That's true but not enough, that's just one side of the dice.
Just like any other marketing activity, advertising practices in education and abroad are often just 'showing off' the best things about products, to highlight the brand image. Of course, those good things make you willing to spend all the money to buy from a toothbrush to a floor carpet.
They make you believe that you must be open-minded, not afraid to change the environment to be able to adapt. Gradually, that thought makes dreams turn into a burden because you are an introvert.
Every time you see someone who is afraid to communicate and seems to be detached, ... you will label that person as an introvert but, it is likely that it is just the first embarrassment in a strange crowd. In fact, embarrassment is just a common sense of fear stemming from some inner beliefs, while the introvert is a group of personality traits - a revolving lifestyle and a mind-centered lifestyle. Surveys show that the number of people who identify themselves as introverts varies from 16% to 50% depending on the way of asking questions and situations. The definition of an introvert is still very vague and confusing. So don't be anxious about your own state, chances are you're not completely inward.
Introvert or not
Even if you are an introvert, the common misunderstandings (as below) should not diminish your overseas study:
In a culturally diverse environment such as studying abroad, how to integrate when you are always self-conscious, fear what you say or if your body language is wrong, ... Many people think that The best way to form a connection is to learn the language of new friends. Obviously, communication and trying to get acquainted make you more tired. Instead, you can choose to do the opposite to have a comfortable mind: When you're not good at native language, you will have the opportunity to focus more on the meaning of the conversation, but not in the guilt.
You can also enjoy the study abroad with the same dimensions as the priceless artifacts of past colors in a certain museum. Helping you increase your knowledge is more accessible to local culture. Or reward yourself with a cup of coffee and watch the street from some doorways along the road. Spending time with yourself is a way for you to talk to yourself and understand yourself better because even extroverts need quiet lives.
There are few close friends
Unlike an extrovert, there are hundreds of followers on Instagram or Facebook friends, making friends with you is not so easy. But how many of those friends are really close friends? Because true friendship needs a lot of time together, talking and exploring each other. So you can absolutely find a good friend, just that you need time.
To make yourself more active and less embarrassed to meet new friends, you can plan ahead for an appointment or be a person to make an appointment earlier. This will give you enough time to observe others and quickly get to know them. And most importantly, never be afraid to try anything. You will worry a little bit, but obviously, our lives always contain surprises.
Feeling depressed/lonely in the new environment
Anyone who has just changed the environment has a feeling of solitude, or worse, "cultural shock". Do not worry if you are among them, instead you can fully enjoy the space alone. Go to the places you want, listen to the music you like and stroll around the city where you study without having to listen to anyone complaining. It is also a great opportunity to find a quiet corner in a library or cafe to complete essays or research projects.
Talk less and think a lot
Obviously, studying abroad gives us different experiences, but if you don't try, no one will know how far you will go. Even if you are not an active type in every activity, it is okay, because studying abroad is an opportunity for each person to realize and train themselves. You can slowly increase your confidence and push yourself out of your comfort zone by setting short-term goals such as talking to a new friend every week, going to a strange restaurant every Saturday, going to see an art event every month etc.
The smartest people in the classroom, sometimes are those who are absent from many fun events. Monologue and writing autobiography or diaries are tools to help develop extremely sensitive thinking and thanks to the extra time when traveling - studying abroad allows you to exercise your skills.
When you know your weaknesses and strengths, whether you are an introvert or not, you will know how to make studying abroad useful and fun!